Oh Yeah. You're Subtle
My brother told me that on Sunday, after my parents arrived home from their West Coast trip, my mother called him to say she'd arrived safely. "Okay." She then says she called our grandfather to let him know too. "Okay." My brother and I are not big worriers about traveling.
According to my brother, my mother then says, "So you know, and Grandpa knows. I've let everyone who matters know."
At that point my brother was officially disgusted and got off the phone as quickly as possible.
I'm having a hard time not wishing my mother dead.
According to my brother, my mother then says, "So you know, and Grandpa knows. I've let everyone who matters know."
At that point my brother was officially disgusted and got off the phone as quickly as possible.
I'm having a hard time not wishing my mother dead.
posted by Zoe @ 10:45 AM
10 Comments:
At 10/25/2006 12:06 PM,
anne said…
That is just horribly harsh. Apparently she is very crazy bitter. Sad that you have to feel like you wish she were dead.
I just don't understand her point. She wants you to want her but is going about it in all the wrong ways.
At 10/25/2006 1:24 PM,
Candy Noseisnumb said…
why does your brother report all this to you? I dont see how it is helpful or useful information.
At 10/25/2006 3:19 PM,
Zoe said…
Would you want to be going out of your way for someone who was saying to others that you don't matter? I don't.
At 10/25/2006 10:45 PM,
the Drunken Housewife said…
Like desertbitch, I just don't get why your brother reported this back to you. Of course it will hurt you to hear it, but why not spare you that particular bit of pain? You've got enough mother-related angst going already.
At 10/26/2006 6:44 AM,
M.Amanda said…
This is totally passive-aggressive behavior. As long as she thinks she will be able to manipulate people with it, she will continue. Responding, especially by getting upset, is what she wants. Blow it off, pretend you never heard it if you can. Hopefully, she will eventually figure out it doesn't work and quit.
At 10/26/2006 6:48 AM,
Angela said…
I'm sorry, those words were incredibly hurtful and must have been difficult for you to hear. I also echo others comments, maybe your brother should edit his comments and not forward anything so negative.
My mother always says things to me directly no matter how hurtful or negative, it's not fun, but at least I know where we stand and I can react or respond...
At 10/26/2006 10:32 PM,
the Drunken Housewife said…
BTW obviously you're important: you wield the power of life and death over her!
At 10/27/2006 11:36 AM,
a stronger, braver me said…
I'm sorry, but it is soooo her problem, and obviously she is a big beliver in "misery loves company".
Can you ask your brother to stop relating the negative comments to you? I know its hard to stop, on both ends, but I agree with the others that said its not helpful or useful, on the other hand its completely hurtful.
and like drunken housewife said - at least you have the power to kill her with the simple push of the end call button =)
At 10/27/2006 2:48 PM,
Zoe said…
I am one of those "information is power" kind of people. I would rather know the truth about how someone feels about me and let my feelings be hurt, rather than have everything be fake yet pleasant.
That's why I don't mind my brother telling me what he did.
At 10/30/2006 5:59 PM,
Stephanie said…
YUCK. Your mother is being such a drama queen. I'm intimately familiar with that particular brand of drama queen, incidentally, and nothing feeds this crap like reacting to it.
Would it be possible to just take a break from your mother? Tell her that you need some space. Then tell your brother and father that you don't want to hear about any of her bullshit until you tell them you're ready for it.
Then, while you're taking the break, work hard to figure out how to give your mother less power over you.
This is hard stuff, sweetie. You're brave and strong.
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